When I created my personal social media profile in 2008, I was ”faceless” – no profile picture, no personal information. One of the first people I added as a ”friend” back then repeatedly encouraged me to add a photo of myself. I did, eventually. The Facebook machine had swallowed me and there was no point of return.
I’ve never posted daily or a few times per day. Not because I had nothing to say. I always have something to say, the question is why should I. Hygiene of sharing is important, methinks. Everyone is free to publish whatever they want, but some consideration is always a good idea. Nowadays I use Facebook solely to check on topics I am passionate about, to follow people I consider inspiring, and to keep in touch with people who I live apart from.
During my 11-year networking I have noticed certain Facebook personas and behaviors that need a special praise:
– The person whom you haven’t heard from or who you haven’t seen for years suddenly remembers you. Surprise, surprise!
– Many grandmas and mothers are on Facebook. The ones who live in the same town as their (grand)kid. Spying around? Never have thought of it!
– The person who always shares their Facebook Memories, a.k.a. what happened in their lives some moons ago. Exciting?
– The parent who floods the feed with pictures of their babies/toddlers/older kids. How much is too much? Also, is the kid comfortable with their pics floating around the net?
– The person who really wants to show their meals to the world. It’s an Asian trend to photograph your food, everyone is Asian today. I mean solidarity here!
– The fitness geek/guru. Screenshots of how much they’ve run today, yesterday, the week before.
– The selfie person. In the bathroom, on vacation, anywhere. Some with duck faces.
– The spy. Never says/shares/likes anything. But they are there! Hopefully for a good reason.
– The drama queen/attention seeker. They fed a homeless dog, helped an elderly person and everyone should know about that; long, heart-wrenching and heroic confessions are the norm.
– The my-life-is-perfect proclaimer. Always great things happen, everything is perfect, everyone should be jealous of their fabulous life. Great, but is it really perfect?
– The crybaby. They always whine about something: the weather sucks (it rains then it snows!), the neighbor sucks, the government and life in general suck.
– The love whisperer. They love they partner SO much! Everyone should be aware of this fact, like, and comment.
– The words-of-wisdom lover. Positive thinking, encouraging proverbs, you name it.
– The braggart. They brag about anything and everything, often with live updates.
– Likes are traded for likes, follows for follows, B-day congratulations for B-day congratulations. No likes, no gain. Hmmm, life is cruel.
– Unfortunately, ”far from the eyes, far from the heart” had proved true. Long-distance friendships work temporarily, for various reasons, it’s always hard for one of the sides to maintain the contact. Efforts, patience, and a goodwill.